Treatment for Anger Issues
Unresolved anger is a subconscious fear that produces feelings of shame, distorted thinking, and an intense emotional response to a perceived threat.
While unresolved anger is created as a protective mechanism in early years, it later becomes self-defeating when applied in our adult relationships. Rebekah and Cheryll recognize this strategy has kept one safe thus far and honor that fully. However, it is important to acknowledge it can cause harm if it continues.
Society recognizes and discusses the explosive angry person more often but there are several different forms of anger. Anger Resolution addresses 3 different forms of anger: explosive, fantasy, and self-harming. It provides clients the opportunity to resolve anger issues often associated with addiction.
In the Anger Resolution Blueprint, the individual will be asked to be honest, examine parts of oneself kept hidden from the world, and walk through discomfort within self in hopes of finding a more serene life.
The explosive angry person tends to be volatile, aggressive, and uncontrollable.
This person tends to manipulate others’ behavior and emotions in an effort to control their own behavior. However, this creates anger in others toward the explosive person as the relationships continue to develop dysfunctional characteristics. Explosive anger can create coping side effects such as codependency, addiction, relationship dysfunctions, and even incarceration. Anger management only provides skills to deal with anger when it arises but does not resolve or explain where the anger began.
Anger Resolution provides an opportunity to resolve the anger at its roots.
This aggressive technique was developed to regain control of actions, thoughts, and emotions to be able to utilize healthy coping skills to resolve anger. It challenges thoughts centered around fears and explains protective factors which justify anger both subconsciously and consciously.
The fantasy plotter is a person who is angered by another’s actions.
Often this anger is misplaced and is a memory of when someone in the past has angered them. Think for a minute an individual cuts the fantasy plotter off in traffic. A healthy person will respond by slowing down and allowing the aggressive driver to move out of the way. A fantasy plotter will be triggered from a past event and justify calling the aggressor names, yelling, hitting the steering wheel, speeding up or begin to follow the aggressive driver. They become increasingly angry over a situation that does not warrant any real harm. They take the situation personally even when it does not have anything to do with them. They begin to plot the aggressor’s demise.
This type of anger can be triggered by a smell, a sound, a feeling, another person who looks or smells like the person from the past, or a minor event that reminds the individual of a traumatizing past event. Fantasy plotters have the potential of becoming increasingly delusional or hospitalized due to disconnections with reality.
Anger Resolution provides intense sessions to explore the past trauma and need to create a fantasy.
These intense sessions will explore the continued self-harm inflicted by the fantasy and address the issues at the root of the problem.
The self-saboteur or self-harming is a person who appears to not have any anger issues but suffers internally using negative self talk based on shame and fear.
The self-saboteur will reassure others expressing everything is fine and dandy. When in fact, they are eating their emotions, participating in unhealthy sexual relationships or utilizing drugs and alcohol to cope with feelings of shame and fear. This anger toward self is damaging and self defeating. It could lead to depression, anxiety, or suicide.
Anger Resolution provides the self-saboteur a safe environment to become vulnerable enough to address shame and fear based thoughts and correct them.
It allows the client to have some radical acceptance of self. Providing new techniques to create self healing instead of self harm addressing the problems at the root.
If any of these examples sound like something you or someone you love has experienced, feel free to contact us for an Anger Resolution Blueprint assessment with one of our highly trained clinicians.
We are here to help individuals begin the healing process from fear and shame based unresolved anger issues. Afford yourself the opportunity to begin the healing process today.